This is the most relevant article I’ve yet to read that isn’t scholarly on Borderline Personality Disorder. I struggle to speak out on my own due to the misconceptions and untrue, negative myths that we are some manipulative, abusive monsters. So in an attempt to at least speak out in a positive way, the below article is helpful for anyone without BPD.
It also is nice to see an article that gets the REAL BPD. And by no means is this an EXCUSE for the behaviors, but I hope it serves as an EXPLANATION and helps those of you who don’t understand, who aren’t do more harm than good due to your ignorance on this highly stigmatized disorder.
I think a very large part of the ignorance is the lack of people 1) seeking to understand BPD, 2) the amount of people either believing the lies about Borderline or thinking all mental illnesses are the same, we are just ‘overreacting.’
If you care for someone, you do all you can to understand and love them. It isn’t a battle you want to give up. I speak those words because of a blessing of a soul who has stuck beside me for over a decade and counting, through the worst of my insanity. Thank you for being one of the few who can see past the symptoms.
https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/things-to-know-borderline#1
The article ends like this, and if you know the extremes we as Borderlines have, you know it to be true. I think the author summed this up very well, regarding relationships:
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People with BPD have a lot of love to give, so much that it can be overwhelming.
Relationships can feel like a whirlwind at times, because when someone with BPD — especially those grappling with chronic feelings of emptiness or loneliness — makes a real connection, the rush can be just as intense as any other emotion they experience.
This can make being in a relationship with someone with BPD difficult, but it also means that this is a person that has so much love to offer. They just want to know that their feelings are returned, and may need a little more reassurance to ensure that the relationship is still fulfilling for you both.
If you’re in a relationship or have a loved one with BPD, it’s important to do your research into the condition, and be wary of the stereotypes you may come across
Chances are, if you read something about borderline personality disorder that you wouldn’t want said about you, a person with BPD won’t benefit from having that assumed about them, either.
Working to gain a compassionate understanding of what they’re going through, and how you can help both your loved one and yourself cope, can make or break a relationship.
If you feel like you need some extra support, open up to someone about how you’re feeling — bonus points if it’s a therapist or clinician! — so they can offer you some support and tips on how to improve your own mental well-being.
Remember, the best support for your loved one comes from taking the best possible care of you.”
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